But by that time I had stopped loving him
He’s selfish and self centered. Something I had ignored for a long time. Time to move on, but work pays too little to live on my own. I did meet a wonderful man online , though complicated I will leave my spouse for the other man, gl hun.
I’ve got 30 years in vested in marriage and I’m leaving this Sunday for a long time… Not sure I’m returning. So, my advice is at this age you don’t need a divorce, just stay married and go away. I’m personally going to visit lots of relatives, do some sightseeing, relax on a beach.
I’m tried of trying. My husband retired and the only thing he enjoys is TV, and complaining about political stuff, and that is literally it!
He doesn’t like my children (2nd marriage for both of us), or any of my relatives. I do all the cooking, cleaning, etc. I’ve tried talking to him, but he just gets angry and defensive.
I’m not educated, but I’m not worried. Everything in life works itself out. He receives social security so he’ll be fine financially 
. I’ll get a job because I’m only 60 and ca
I can easily say that after 40 years I’m still here Husband is verbally abusive hurtful and neglected all this time Haven’t left yet because my grown daughters may not understand
To afraid to be alone, you’re a mirror image of myself, 41 years, kids grown , no love, my hubby had big anger issues 11 years ago found out he had sugar type 1, after getting him on meds he was nicer
Stop using y – seriously!our grown daughters as an excuse. Staying married because they ‘may not understand’ is basically inertia – like staying in your bad marriage, because it might rain tomorrow and your suitcases will get wet as you move out. Talk to your daughters – seriously! When you are locked in place by ‘mights’, which you aren’t even willing to explore, you are grasping for excuses to do nothing.
What a shame. I hope your daughters don’t end up staying with abusive, neglectful partners themselves because they saw you putting up with it all these years and think that’s what a normal relationship looks like. If they’re smart, capable women, the only thing they don’t understand is why you didn’t leave years ago.
We are aren’t rich, but I’d rather live in a tent then be miserable at this point in life
I can’t stand my husband either! We’ve been married 52 years and he has ruined our marriage. Since day one he’s never been a sexual person! Maybe I should say we both messed up our marriage but he is extreme. At first sex was kinda OK, but after a few years he got bore on how we did sex. He thought it be nice to change our positions and make it more fun. Well I liked what I was getting and refused to change how, and I was accused of setting limitations. That didn’t end nice he told me the hell with you well and he decided he didn’t want any thing to do with me. At the time my mom was sick and I went to spent a few days with her, when I got back home my husband moved all his stuff to our basement and he told me never bother him again. Also he moved his work schedule to the mid nights so he wouldn’t be home with me at night. That’s been over 50 years ago. We both created this mess and now were in our mid 70s and we just don’t care any more. I have no kid’s and been lonely for ever! I suppose I should have left, he would never have cared, or noticed.
