According to The Love Compatibility Book: The 12 Personality Traits That Can Lead You to Your Soulmate by Dr

Hoffman, it is best if both people in the relationship have the same need for companionship. If one person feels the need to be around their partner all the time but the other one needs more space, the relationship may not work. In those situations, one person may begin to feel smothered and start looking for a way out of the relationship.

A healthy relationship is about quality time over quantity. Both people should be willing and able to spend time alone or with people other than their partner. You should want to spend time together and do so, but you should also be able to spend time apart and be able to function as individuals as well as as a couple.

However, in truth, many couples who have been successful in their relationships do not always agree on all of these matters

Some experts believe that for a relationship to work, you should both have the same basic or very similar ideas and belief systems. Everyone has an idea of how a relationship should work, as well as how a person should be in general. If you and your partner have opposite ideas about life, you may not be able to work through these differences.

Ideally, both of you will have the same or similar views on politics, religion, and morals. It depends on what is most important to you.

Emotional intensity compatibility is along the same lines as a need for companionship. If one person is much more intense in their emotions than the other, the other person may start to feel smothered and overwhelmed.

It is best if you both have the same level of emotional intensity. If you both have passions that run high, you could have a very intense love relationship, but it will be mutual and therefore likely healthy. However, you could also both be low-intensity lovers, in which case you will not be quite as occupied with each other but still get along famously.

The ability to be spontaneous is something that not everyone has. Many people want to be surprised on occasion, while others dislike surprises. It is important that you know each other’s view on spontaneity. If you both like to be spontaneous, you might have a more adventurous relationship. If neither one likes to be spontaneous, you can thrive in each other’s ability to plan and be organized in every way.

While no relationship should be based entirely on sex, it is an important factor for some people

One of the biggest problems that couples run into over time is an incompatibility in libido. When one partner wants physical intimacy more frequently than the other, it can lead to serious problems in the relationship.

It is important that relationships are not one-sided. Both partners should be willing and able to nurture the other to about the same extent, or to the extent that both they are comfortable with and that meets their and their partner’s needs. Nurturing behaviors are those in which you care for the other person’s needs, whether those needs be support, cooking them a meal, drawing them a bath, talking about the day, spending quality time together, or giving them a massage. This goes vice-versa, as well.

When only one person in a relationship is nurturing, it can create a feeling of one-sidedness that can eventually turn into resentment. Often, people who are very nurturing enjoy being pampered themselves. They don’t just nurture because they enjoy it; they may also nurture because they similarly enjoy that behavior in return.